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Milana Vayntrub is letting people see what her home is like.
The 35-year-old actress, who was known to many as AT&T saleswoman “Lily Adams” in the company’s ads, was on the latest episode of Rebecca Lee’s podcast, How The F*** Did You Bounce Back?, where she talked about how having a good relationship with her husband helps her be a better parent.
She told Lee, “Before I had a child, I was a little harsh on moms because I didn’t know much about them.” ” If they had talked about how hard it was, I would have thought they were, I don’t know, a little self-centered or that they were probably doing something wrong.
Her whole point of view has changed now that she has a baby son at home with her husband, neither of whose names she has told anyone.
“If I had heard myself before I had a child, I would have judged myself,” the Marvel Rising star says now. So many things happened that I wasn’t ready for. I wasn’t ready for how much time it would take. “
She says of her son, “I’m so in love with him, and I think he’s so funny and cute.” It’s hard because I want to spend every second of every day with him, but I’m also happy when I have time to myself. It’s complicated.
She says that a big part of keeping a healthy view of motherhood is strengthening her relationship with her husband. She does this by having what she calls “state of the union meetings,” where they talk freely about anything that is bothering them each other.
She said, “We’re just better parents when our needs as a couple and as individuals are met.” “My parents didn’t get along when I was growing up, and that was really hard, because when your pillars of safety fight, it probably makes you feel less safe, less like yourself, and less like home.”
In fact, Vayntrub’s parenting style is clear evidence of her desire to break the patterns she thinks caused a lot of her early trauma.
“When I was in my second or third trimester, I was really freaking out about all the bad things that happened to me as a child,” the Ukrainian-born actress said, adding that she has forgiven both of her parents, who left the Soviet Union when she was 2 years old to start a new life in Los Angeles.
“I think about all the ways I was raised wrong or all the ways I would like to change things,” she said. “I was just thinking about all of that, and I’m really, really afraid of making some of those same mistakes again or passing them on to the next generation.”
One thing she’s going to stop doing with her son is hitting him. I know I won’t ever hit my child. “That is just never going to happen,” she told me. “Being spanked was just part of my culture, but I know I’ll never, ever, ever do that again.”
The actress works hard at being a parent, but she has also used her fame to change the way people talk about other important issues, like sexual harassment.
Last year, Vayntrub told viewers how she had been sexually harassed online because of ads that aired during the 2021 NCAA Tournament.
I’ve been hearing a lot of “Why do they put her body in those ads like that?” So, I’m in charge of the ads. I put myself in that position, ” At the time, she sent a tweet. “And it’s because I get a lot of negative comments about my body. You won’t be able to look at it again until I’m sure it’s safe. “